Low Libido in Midlife: What’s Normal, What’s Not, and What You Can Do

Jun 16

If you’ve been feeling less interested in sex during your 40s or 50s, you're not alone — and you're not broken.

A dip in libido during perimenopause and menopause is very common. But just because it’s common doesn’t mean you have to ignore it or “just live with it.”

Let’s talk about why it happens — and what you can do about it.

💡 Why does libido decrease?

As estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone fluctuate and decline, your sexual desire may drop too. Other midlife changes also play a role:

Vaginal dryness or discomfort
Sleep disruption
Mood shifts or anxiety
Relationship dynamics
Life stress and fatigue

Often, it’s a combination of physical and emotional factors.

👩‍⚕️ What’s normal?

There’s no one-size-fits-all answer — what matters most is how you feel. If you’re distressed or frustrated by changes in your libido, that’s worth exploring. It’s not “just aging” — it’s a signal your body may need support.

🩺 How femcare can help

At femcare.org, we take a compassionate, whole-person approach to sexual wellness. We offer:

Hormone testing to check for estrogen and testosterone imbalance
Virtual consults to discuss symptoms and goals
Personalized care plans, including hormone therapy or vaginal estrogen if appropriate

You deserve to feel connected to yourself — and your partner — at every stage of life.